“I am Woman. Hear me roar in numbers too big to ignore and I know too much to go back and pretend. ‘Cause I’ve heard it all before and I’ve been down there on the floor. No one’s ever gonna keep me down again. I am woman, watch me grow. See me standing toe to toe as I spread my loving arms across the land.”
– Helen Reddy
The aforementioned may not seem too familiar to most, but when you realize it’s the karaoke song requested by Samantha in Sex and the City, it may become clearer. The powerful way these women sang the song, represents the power every woman holds within themselves, even though it doesn’t always feel that way.
Hear me roar in numbers too big to ignore and I know too much to go back and pretend.
Women don’t always acknowledge the kind of power that they possess once they decide to stand together, instead of working against one another. Similar to these four completely different woman, each with their own work – as well as life goals, personalities, ideas and taste. They are each their own individual, but instead of working against each other, insulting, ridiculing and judging one another and pointing out each other’s faults, they complement each other’s personalities. Aspects that one may lack, the other one has and so they blend into each other, not as one vulnerable flower, but rather a forest that would be able to withstand a storm
‘Cause I’ve heard it all before and I’ve been down there on the floor.
Every woman has experienced hardships in their life. With that being said, no one’s difficulties are the same and neither does two people handle the same difficulty in exactly the same way. A trauma in one woman’s life may not be as big of a deal in someone else’s, but that won’t make it less traumatic in her instances. Environment, social structure, support, economical status, home structure, personality and a whole lot plays a big role in these circumstances. Respect that.
Be there for each other, not only for friends, but all women. Be the support she might not be getting somewhere else and keep on encouraging one another to stand up from the floor, in small steps, in order to stand taller than ever before.
No one’s ever gonna keep me down again.
Women compete instead of supporting one another when it comes to success. It becomes a competition and most of the time it turns out to be an unpleasant ordeal. There’s a quote that rings truth: “Girls compete with each other, while women empower one another.” Let’s start empowering one another instead of competing and breaking each other down.
In the same manner as trauma, success means something different to different woman. Miranda the career driven lawyer, Carry never wanted to marry and keep on writing, Charlotte only wanted a husband, children and a happy family and Samantha can’t bear the idea of settling down to a monotonous life. Despite their different ideas of success, they supported one another in their individual pursuit of success.
I am woman, watch me grow. See me standing toe to toe as I spread my loving arms across the land.”
Plants need different elements such as the right soil, sunlight, water and nutrients in order to grow healthily, but one worm can devastate it in a matter of days. All women are plants themselves, but can only represent the element or the worm to other women. When we encourage and uplift one another we become the elements and we nurture healthy plants, but the moment we use the sharp sword in our mouth we become the worm, cutting through other plants and tearing them down. Whether you want to be the elements or the worm is entirely your choice to make.
Wake up every morning, make the choice to be the good elements instead of the worm and watch how woman grow.
Stand toe to toe, complementing each other and form forests across the land to spread love, the way only women can.
Anel Swanepoel Psychological Counselling
BA PSYC, PSYC HON, Play therapy, Strepco Counselling Course